Saturday, February 2, 2013

I Choose

I'm in a place now where I am able to choose my friends and it is amazing. I love the friend(s) I had in High School, but the intersection of people who were willing to talk to me and were normal, fun human beings was less than five people. I had choices, but not many. Now I am in a place where there are 1,000 people in that intersection (that calculation was basically everybody here would talk to me, but only two-thirds of them are normal). So now I have a choice.

My relationships are still controlled primarily by circumstance because a computer randomly sorted my best friends and I onto the same floor our first year, but I could have ignored that and chose to hang out with people from class or in clubs. Instead I stuck with Laura, Bruna, and Victoria because I like them.

Today is my roommate Victoria's birthday. Sometimes I have trouble communicating to people why I chose to live with her and why I enjoy her company. She doesn't exude charisma or make any particular effort to be charming, but I find her magnetic because she is unapologetically herself all the time. I often start conversations about her with, "You wouldn't know her" because she doesn't make a massive wave on the campus as a whole, but instead deeply affects the people around her. She doesn't pretend to like people so when she is kind to me and helps me I know it is genuine. I quest in life to find truthtellers and Victoria will look at me and say, "Dude, what are you doing?" when others would only equivocate and pretend not to notice when I am being weird or failing. What more could I ask than someone who is honest with me? She is loyal, trustworthy, and mostly importantly extremely considerate of others feelings without trying to pacify them. She is amazing not because of her athletic ability or intelligence (both of which abound), but because she is the kind of person you want to have around to help remind you what's right.

I've enjoyed our two years and I expect many more. Hopefully your birthday was wicked mint, dude. See you soon.

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